Naseem is no more πŸ˜Œ

Yes, Naseem is no more. She was young and beautiful and she breathed her last early morning today πŸ˜ŒπŸ™

I had met her more than 20 years back and loved her on first sight. Sweet little girl with a beautiful smile 😍 Her mother used to give rides to children on a small merry go round, near the park where I used to go for my walks in Mumbai. That was in late 90s. During my talks with her I realised that she was from a decent family but her husband had to leave his work after a heart attack. She had to start some work to feed the family. One day Naseem had come to meet her and I met her that day for the first time. At that time she must have been around 12-13. Such a sweet girl. Loved her.

I started to take more interest in their lives and helped the girls to go through beautician courses. Fatima, the eldest sister, and Naseem became good at this but other sisters eventually did other work. In India, the not so educated Muslim families don’t worry so much about their daughters education. Their brother finished his graduation and got a good job. Sisters too were working. With God’s Grace I was able to help the father start a tailoring shop. And all was going well once again for them.
Their life story of past 20-25 years so vividly confirms my post: Cyclicity of Life Good times, bad times, good times and very bad timesπŸ˜ŒπŸ™
We came from entirely different backgrounds, social status and religion. And yet there was so much love. Interestingly all the children, as well as the parents call me uncle😊. There are no barriers, no hurdles, no distances, no cast, colour or creed in Friendship; in Love.
Two years back I had gone to Mumbai, when I had heard about Naseem’s sickness, and had taken her to my doctor. Doctor confirmed that the treatment Naseem was undergoing was right. I was relieved but knew that there was only one cure for her disease – prayer πŸ™ Last month I had gone to meet her. Father too is not so well again. Last week Naseem had to be admitted in the hospital. And I was intending to visit her later this week (Am tied up with some organisational work till tomorrow)
But such is life. We know so little!!
In a way I am relieved. Naseem’s suffering is over. She is in very kind and loving Hands now. May God give her family strength and wisdom to deal with her absence. I loved all the children but I was always more fond of Naseem. Have been praying for her during every morning and evening meditation for months.
You will read this and pray for her and get on with your next post and life and forget Naseem. I too will do the same, but may take a little longer. Her family will take longer than me 😌

All of us will forget Naseem. All of us will stop thinking about death. Sad or happy we will continue with our lives.

Was there any meaning to Naseem’s life? Is there any meaning to any of our lives?
Why are you so worried about your job? Your holiday? The grades of your child? Your result? The new car? YOU ARE ALIVE AND NASEEM IS DEAD!! WHY AREN’T YOU GRATEFUL?
It is so amazing that I have been meaning to write about death and life for the past few days. On Thursday I had gone to attend a Spiritual discourse and heard a recording of Dada Vaswani on death. He was the Spiritual Head of the Sindhi community in India and was revered all over the world as a saintly person. I had the pleasure and the privilege of meeting him 3 years back – the only saint I have ever met – a picture of humility and love. That was on Thursday.
On Friday I was to lead the meditation at our center and the reading I chose, incidentally, was Paramahansa Yogananda talking about death!!

During the last month I had written about Life :

All the three are my truths and my experiences of life. And I would like to conclude the topic with today’s post … not that one can ever stop talking about life πŸ˜‡


Most of us live, as if we shall never die. Most of us die as if we never lived.

Life is absolutely UNCERTAIN. We have no clue what tomorrow may bring. But one thing is absolutely CERTAIN :
Dada Vaswani explained it beautifully. He asked us to meditate on death. And to do it often. And we will realise that it is an illusion. Like I had mentioned in my posts that life is the grandest illusion; so is death. But we are scared of it and we don’t want to think about it. And we don’t want to talk about it. But believe me my dear friend that once you make friends with death you will never be afraid of it. And the quality of your life will grow manifold.
Dada Vaswani gave some practical tips to strengthen our friendship with death :

  1. Establish personal relationship with a god, God or a godly person. A person who is filled with love and devotion. For me it is my Guru, Paramahansa Yogananda, for you it may Krishna, Christ, Buddha, Prophet Mohammad, Mahavira, Zarathushtra….
  2. Rejoice in everything that comes to you. Everything comes from Him.
  3. Be a blessing to others.
  4. The god you worship or the godly person you revere shall be there to receive you when you cross over. He will greet you with love and with a smile and shall ask you just one question: What did you do with your life my child?
  5. Get detached from everything. Use things but don’t get too attached with them. Love people but don’t get too attached with them too. It is these attachments that come in your life as ghosts. They never leave you.
  6. Reduce your desires. Make your life simple.

Dada said Death is simply a Bridge : between the physical and the astral world.

Paramahansa Yogananda says something very similar : he says that our body passes from the dream of physical to the dream astral world. And saint and sinner alike spend some time in the astral world, depending on their karma. And after spending sometime there our unfulfilled desires and strong attachments again force us to come back to the physical plane.

The point my dear friend is : whether you believe in reincarnation or not; whether your belief or your religion is against it or pro; you are going to die and so am I. Death remains the only certainty in this uncertain world. SO :



Today is the only day that was promised to you.

PLEASE DO NOT WASTE IT : whining, crying, lamenting, blaming, defending, justifying….

SPEND IT : Loving, caring, being happy and spreading happiness and cheer. And when the call comes you will be amply ready…for


Aum Peace Amen Ameen πŸ™

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  1. Some people come into our lives and transform who we are and life becomes easier when they are around, I can’t tell you I understand your pain but I can only tell you to be happy for you had an amazing soul beside you, may Naseem’s soul rest in peace.

  2. Thank you for pointing me to this post… What a kind person you are, helping people like Naseem and making such a difference to her life. And you make a difference to all of the lives around you that you touch with your words. Wonderful reminders of what is important while we are alive… Sending peaceful thoughts to Naseem and to you.

  3. A very moving post Ashok! As I mature into the final third of my life, I understand and appreciate each precious day. Your unselfish acts of care and love are a light for others to follow.

  4. So touched Uncle by your post..May Naseem’s soul rest in peace. You have got a great thinking inspiring us with your witings

  5. A beautiful post and sorry to hear of your loss. May Naseem’s soul rest in peace. It is true what you say “Most of us live as if we shall never die. Most of us die as if we have never lived.” Some good tips to live by in your post.

  6. Splendid, excellent πŸ‘ πŸ‘πŸ‘ πŸ‘ and I am left speechless, Ashok. Thanks for this superb share. Life is a living but death itself is a celebration. We all have to come to terms within ourselves that this is our temporary bodies we r much beyond all this. Too good πŸ˜ŠπŸ˜ŠπŸ˜ŠπŸ˜ŠπŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘πŸ‘

  7. Some people touch our lives in a short time. May Naseem’s soul rest in peace. Recently read a couple of books on life after death and the soul’s onward journey. Was truly fascinated and intrigued…. Still trying to comprehend it.
    You seem to have a deep understanding on life and spirituality Ashok ji. I am happy that you are sharing it with others through this platform.

  8. This is such a great post. Such wise words again Ashokji πŸ‘.Death is certain and still we avoid talking about it like a foreign concept. Everyday is a blessing and we who are living do not usually treat it such. Thank you for writing about Death. Loved every word.

  9. May the beautiful soul rest in peace in His loving care πŸ™πŸ™

    Such an eye opener.. so easily I’ve let my smile fade when there’s so much still to thank for πŸ˜ŠπŸ™πŸ€— and a very big thanks to you my dear friend for being His messengerπŸ™

    It’s so much easier now to go through everything with a realization that ‘Everything comes from Him’ πŸ˜ŠπŸ€—

  10. What a lovely post! You stopped on my tracks with your heartfelt, beautiful words. You are right: life goes on, but I truly believe that she won’t be forgotten. She will remain on the heart and memories of many. That’s our way of prolonging others’ lives, isn’t it? Big hugβ€οΈπŸ€—

  11. I’m waiting in an office with my iPad, and the images don’t show for review. Of the first, I saw humor, laughter – what appeared so free and expressive, The other laying…just seem bubbly content to just be having fun.

    Of the first; that joy seemed carried away on by a worthy merit; of the second…happiness cradled in a captured moment in happiness.

    Images capture moments; and seen from a future observer, these carry through time…unbound. All emotion runs this way through the many slide that present of our moments; an image in one single moment of many many.

    It was delightful to see joy. I had to go by memory.


  12. Thank you so much Swapnal. Life gives us so many opportunities to learn and to grow. But we are soooo stupid. We foolishly stick to our past habits and thoughts. We walk through life like zombies 😌

  13. The woman in the picture…both pictures is beautiful! Photos/pictures seem, to me, carry an essence that is felt. I feel something when I see these pictures. It’s good feeling.

    This is a wonderful article.


  14. What a heart touching post Uncle…so well expressed…. soo deep….such an eye opener…a true wakeup call…i loved the thought most of Gratitude that Naseem is no more and im alive…aah goosebumps…. Guruji n Dada waswani sayings are soo soothing to soul, taking fear away…. one of ur best posts Uncle… really made my day….πŸ‘Œ

  15. This is something really very serious topic!! Yes we should be grateful that we are alive today!!
    Today was the day that was promised to you!! πŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘Œ
    Really very well written
    Very great tips by Dada vashnawi!! Really every moment is precious and we should not procrastinate!!πŸ‘ŒπŸ‘Œ

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