Friends or Soul Connects πŸ’•

Life is an adventure in friendship. Every person we meet, let us make him a friend. There are no strangers; there are only friends-in- the making

Dada Vaswani

You may enjoy this post more if you first read my earlier post: Time heals nothing …. and HOPE and WAIT

Anita and I used to talk often about souls and life after death, incarnation etc. Both of us had read and loved Dr. Bryan Weiss’s – Many Lives Many Masters. One day, in 2010, a friend of mine presented me with Laws of The Spirit World by Khorshed Bhavnagri. It sounded so true and was very helpful. Both of us read it, though she used to get tired very quickly. By this time her health had become worse 😌 In fact she was never a great reader of books 😊 As far as our love for books was concerned we were poles apart! If a started an interesting book I found it difficult to sleep at night! I will keep telling myself just one more chapter or just one more page!! Anita was just the opposite! By the time she would read a page at night she would fall asleep!! Many a night I had watched her sleeping peacefully by my side, when I was reading. She used to sleep like a child😍

Both of us were very friendly and made friends easily! But before our marriage I made friends only with boysπŸ˜‚ I was very shy talking to girls! But that changed after our marriage😊

With God’s grace we have had many good friends and some as close as family or more! Anita’s date of birth and the day she died made me think so much about one such family.

When we got married in 1975 we were living in Ranchi, in the eastern part of India. In 1981 I changed my job and we moved to Delhi. We became very friendly with a family next door. They were Narangs and had a joint family. Three brothers, with their children, were living on one floor each, in a three story house! We were living in a rented house next door. We knew all of them well but became very close to one brother and his family. This brother (I used to call him uncle or daddy!) had two sons. Older one was studying to be a doctor and was living in a hostel. The younger one, Sanjeev, was studying in a college nearby. He became very close to both of us but he literally worshipped Anita! Most of the people in the locality, where we lived, were business people and not vey educated. And they had special love and respect for us. But as I have said Sanjeev had much more than respect for Anita. For him she was perfect – beautiful, talented, loving!

After his college Sanjeev joined his father’s wholesale business and we moved to Southern part of New Delhi. That part of the city was more upscale and happening! Though that was quite far off our relationship and love didn’t diminish with the distance. When his parents found a bride for him (it is still not uncommon in India for parents to choose a life partner for their children, at that time in 80s it was more so) he told them that Anita Bhabhi (sister in law; he treated me like his elder brother and Anita became sister in law) must see and approve the girl before he would say yes! And that was arranged and both of us loved Sakshi and they got married in 1986! Anita did all the shopping for Sakshi!

Sanjeev and Sakshi have two beautiful daughters, Hansa and Vrinda. They call me Mamu, maternal uncle, and I love them both loads πŸ’•πŸ˜

Coming back to the point I wanted to make: Vrinda, the younger one, was born on Anita’s birthday – 25th of September and Anita died on Hansa’s birthday – 17th of September!! It could, of course, be called a coincidence! And it could also be some past life connection, some soul connect! Who knows! For me there are no coincidences!!

I have been blogging now for some months. There are millions of bloggers! And out of the blue you connect with some of them at a much deeper level than the rest! Yesterday morning only I got in touch with a blogger from Philippines for the first time and there was instant connect from both sides. During the last few months I have made good friends with bloggers young and old; males and females; from all parts of the world – from Pakistan, US, Canada, UK, Turkey, Lebanon, Panama, Africa, Scandinavia and of course India …we have become so close and we have never met! Someone is struggling for a job, another is depressed, someone is recovering from a serious sickness and another is dealing with the health of a significant other or a parent; some are sharing their joy and success. I feel for them all. I understand their pain and I suggest, guide, help wherever I can. If nothing I pray for them. And I join them in their happy times and wish them well. One of them is already like family and I am looking forward to meeting her πŸ’•πŸ€— And again, yesterday only I called one of them my soul mateπŸ’•πŸ€—

And it is not the first time in my life that this has happened! How does this work? What are the mechanics of creation? What is life and what is death? What is family and who and what are our friends?

I have no answers! And You, who is reading this post, and me are connected too and I am grateful for this connection πŸ™πŸ€— And I shall be there for you whenever and wherever you need me.

I shall close with Guruji’s words, which I had shared earlier too:

Friendship is God’s Divine Law Of Attraction...


Two stranger meet, and by an instantaneous choice of their hearts they wish to help each other. Have you ever analyzed how this happens? The spontaneous mutual desire to be friends comes directly from God’s divine law of attraction; cumulative mutual acts of friendship between two souls in past lives gradually create a karmic bond that irresistibly attracts them to each other in this life.

Friendship is a great universal force. When your desire for friendship is strong enough, though an unknown person who is spritually attuned to you be living at the South Pole, the megnetism of friendship will never the less draw you together. Only selfishness can destroy this magnetism within us. He who thinks of himself all the time wrecks friendship. Such persons cannot attract friends, because they are unable to expand and receive the good in life.

Sri Sri Paramahansa Yogananda.

72 thoughts on “Friends or Soul Connects πŸ’•

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  1. Rightly said, there are people with whom we instantly connect.. may be their soul operate at same frequency as oursπŸ™‚.
    Lovely bond you and your wife shared😍
    I am also a book reader like you.. one more chapter..haha..relatable.
    I find ‘Laws of the spirit world’ interesting title..will read this book

  2. Dear Ashok sir, good morning 😊
    Wow!! So beautifully you described about your beautiful relation with your wife β™₯️

  3. Fascinating story Ashokji and yes, I am looking forward to meet you as wellπŸ€—. I completely agree with you, some connections are specials and happen instantaneously. Cheers to friendships!

  4. Ashok, you are wise. Few things happen in life as a result of coincidence. God is in control, and He encourages us to sincerely reach out to others.

    The blogging world is filled with people from different stations in their lives, yet many of us share a connection.

  5. I have a question Kamal. The book I want to publish has lot of prose (philosophy) and some poems. All the stuff I have been blogging.
    The question is shall I put all poems in one section or keep them interspersed in relevant texts ?
    Shall appreciate your thoughts on this
    So good to see yours and Marta’s interaction. I have high regard for you both

  6. Yes absolutely true, Marta our souls r all United and it is so nice to have such beautiful friends who keep on is because of the bloggers reviews and motivation that I compiled my poems and published a Poetry Book on Amazon Kindle.

  7. Yes, Kamal, we are soulmates in thought and spirit here in WP. I love the idea of initial strangers seen as friends-in-the-making. Inspiring post, Ashok!

  8. It’s also nice to talk to you sir. When you sent me those paintings I thought your wife was still living so it came as a surprise. But a Wonderful post indeed, about connections and coincidences, about friendships and relationships!πŸ’

  9. Thank you so much Huguette. I had mentioned Lebanon only because of you 😊 It is so good to know you and I wish you a happy and fulfilling life πŸ˜ŠπŸ€—

  10. It’s great to have you in his community Ashok and glad to read my country in your post 😊 It’s great to read more about your lovely wife and your journey together. Frienship is indeed something very magical and yes sometimes we meet someone and we feel a sudden connection, as if we know them, or we saw them before, it’s great to connect with people despite their complications which is creating wholes instead of bridges unfortunately
    Great post πŸ˜ŠπŸ‘

  11. “My best friend is my nearest relative”That quote sums up the essence of friendship.
    I have experienced the same feeling when we connect spontaneously to some people.Enjoyed your blog, Ashok!

  12. Lovely post. Just loved reading it. I could feel the compassion n feeling you have for people. Divine hands are working through you. Stay blessed

  13. Welcome Ashok and yes we need to welcome everyone and everything in our life. Keep in touch and yes once I come to Pune we can surely meet. It is so nice to be friends with each and everyone. Love and Light to you from our beloved God.

  14. We have mutual admiration club going Saba. I see pure love in your words and I too love you so much πŸ€—πŸ˜˜
    And which girl would you be talking about being so lucky? I thought I was the luckiest 😊

  15. It has been my pleasure knowing you Kamal and hope we meet soon. And so good to know about your husband’s reading or non reading habit 😊
    Love is all there is πŸ’•

  16. Good to connect and I like the quote “Friendship is God’s Divine Law Of Attraction” this is the only Law of Attraction which has meaning for me. I enjoy your posts.

  17. It was so interesting to read your post, Ashok and how beautifully you described your great relationship with your wife and I too can say that my husband too is not interested in reading at all but I am a voracious reader and as you rightly said everything works on the Soul connection and how we meet as virtual friends too and remain friends for life. It is so nice to be hearing these motivational talks from you and there is so much love and respect from our blogger community too. So nice to be making great friends and keeping the friendship going. It feels so beautiful. Great post and nice to make friends with you Ashok.

  18. The more I know you the more I love you. You have such a pure soul reflected in your every word.
    I’m sure that girl would be the luckiest πŸ˜‰
    Lots of love and respect for you πŸ’žπŸ’žπŸ’•πŸ’•

  19. And thank you so much for being what you are Swapnal. You are one such sweet soul mate of mine. And am looking forward with love to the coming of another love filled in soul in our lives πŸ’•πŸ€—

  20. Wonderful post uncle…such a sweet feast in the morning of ur divine thoughts and understanding of life…πŸ‘ŒπŸ‘ŒπŸ‘Œ

  21. Dear Ashok, reading this post is like listening to you talk. What a wonderful way to begin the morning. You are so near though you are so far…..thank you technology, you have your place πŸ™‚

    May your words full of love and compassion keep pouring out and fill the world with joy.

    Thank you Anita, Hansa and Ashok. You have made my life so much richer.

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